In the book, I covered the importance of choosing a health care surrogate that you can trust to be strong enough to ensure that your wishes for your end-of-life care are honored. It’s an important choice that many people fail to consider completely. We tend to choose from our children or close relatives without thinking about how they may react under pressure in a highly emotionally charged moment. I explained why I chose one of my daughters-in-law with a close friend for backup instead of one of my sons or a sibling. I am confident that they both have the emotional strength to make decisions that adhere to my stated wishes in my advance directives. This is a good article on accepting this role that would be great to share with anyone you are considering as your surrogate. (The article calls it medical power of attorney which is just another term for the same thing.) Whether you be the asker or the askee, choose well.